tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post2201363231686048698..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: Amanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-92169115939850995212011-04-14T00:02:10.286-04:002011-04-14T00:02:10.286-04:00I had this deep, insightful comment that was all t...I had this deep, insightful comment that was all the more deep and insightful for getting eaten by Blogger. <br /><br />I'll just say that I hate that we feel this need to label our sexuality the way we do in this culture, and that I feel like I'm too gay to be straight and too straight to be properly bi, and that I'm probably a shithead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-38023867147319913522011-04-13T16:55:55.259-04:002011-04-13T16:55:55.259-04:00drawknife I won't reexplain because you "...drawknife I won't reexplain because you "liked"/smiled at my formspring answer about <i>Skins</i>, so you already know how I feel about lesbians sleeping with men on that show, but that is part of what spurred me to think about these things besides liking a boy. To recap, the way people talk in fandom is so incredibly like, "men are SO IMPORTANT that if you do stuff with men YOU HAVE TO BE STRONGLY ATTRACTED ENOUGH TO MEN THAT IT'S PART OF YOUR IDENTITY." If lesbians sleep with men they're not real lesbians. Whereas no one thinks Cassie is bi for sleeping with girls.<br /><br />I'm jealous of the importance that attraction to men is given, and don't feel mean about it. I mean it does suck if a straight guy likes one guy and then he's labeled as gay, but I feel like that's better than feeling like I have to be 100% gold star and throw up at the thought of kissing a guy, to show that I'm gay.<br /><br />Fiona that TV Trope would probably make sense, but I'm really biased because of the whole "lesbians just need the right guy" stereotype. Saying "I'm gay except for [whoever]" bugs me for the same reason as saying "I like this boy but he's an exception." It seems like it locates my attraction to a boy in something super-magic-awesome about the boy that gets past my gay*, instead of just acknowledging that there are situations where some lesbians would be attracted to a boy.<br /><br />*not that everyone I have a crush on isn't awesome.Amanda Forest Vivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284158336100298682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-74153418440789464932011-04-13T04:52:26.556-04:002011-04-13T04:52:26.556-04:00Hm. I think this TV Tropes page might describe wha...Hm. I think this TV Tropes page might describe what you're talking about: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ptitles8ehi15xdv34Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-51973248550804498022011-04-13T00:50:19.147-04:002011-04-13T00:50:19.147-04:00Sometimes I'm jealous that it's the other ...Sometimes I'm jealous that it's the other way around for guys and if a guy liked even one guy (and told people) he would be Gay Forever. I realize that's kind of a mean thing to be jealous of though.<br /><br />I think people also sort of mentally change queer to bisexual when you show any interest at all to someone not your own gender though, so it's kind of hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com