tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post629459346227403934..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: Let me be playedAmanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-2565302296158048692010-09-21T19:52:57.627-04:002010-09-21T19:52:57.627-04:00Fear not, Amanda. I'm aware of my extreme verb...Fear not, Amanda. I'm aware of my extreme verbosity. Thanks for the blog compliment. It is much appreciated!Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-19622379606177661522010-09-21T14:01:46.974-04:002010-09-21T14:01:46.974-04:00I knoww. Plus I was prompting them for everything/...I knoww. Plus I was prompting them for everything/doing some stuff--I ended up getting soaked as well--and then when I mentioned to another counselor that my cabin was basically not able to do any activities the whole morning, she was like, "You gotta hurry them up."<br /><br />Yeah. Thanks. It's not like I'm sitting there reading a book while they're showering.<br /><br />Roia I appreciate you commenting (and I appreciate your whole blog) I just have trouble responding to long stuff without a lot of thought but I'm not ignoring you.Amanda Forest Vivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284158336100298682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-5321417912794606482010-09-21T12:39:24.898-04:002010-09-21T12:39:24.898-04:00Also, three showers in 40 minutes? I can't eve...Also, three showers in 40 minutes? I can't even get myself showered in 15 minutes.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415989880473044852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-32167081464112909292010-09-21T11:15:42.328-04:002010-09-21T11:15:42.328-04:00I had some experiences like the last one. They tol...I had some experiences like the last one. They told me not to "encourage" this one kid by making stimmy gestures back at him when he made them at me. They said he wasn't really communicating, but I felt it was clear he wanted to connect with me.<br /><br />I kind of kept doing it anyway but more subtly, and then later I was the staff person he tusted most. I wonder why?Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415989880473044852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-64786885104529416572010-09-21T07:51:48.928-04:002010-09-21T07:51:48.928-04:00First, I was reading your post and was surprised t...First, I was reading your post and was surprised to find you had read mine, so thank you for reading my blog. Second, thank you for the moral support/backing. This really is a tough issue, and I notice that somewhere else (in another post) in your "recommended reading" you linked to Dave Hingsburger (whose work has been very helpful to me) talking about silence with regard to abuse (and a whole lot of other stuff). <br /><br />Direct support staff are often put in the position of being expected to "make" their clients do whatever it is the schedule says they're supposed to be doing. On top of that, they are taught that control is the only way that's going to happen. <br /><br />It's insane-making, because it's an incredibly disrespectful way of interacting with other human beings. And it's hard not to get sucked into that sick vortex of "we must get you to do x, y, or z" or suffer the consequences (i.e., get in trouble with management because their clients don't look like "good little clients", get crap from fellow staff people for not getting their clients "under control" and for being pushovers). It's a toxic system, and, as I said, insane-making.<br /><br />I see my job as one in which I try to learn about my clients (as apparently do you). Why might this person need to do what s/he is doing? How is it important? And so forth. It's not my job to come in and decide who this person is going to be. I agree, people can't run out in traffic, people can't violently attack other people, but there's a reason it's happening, and the reason is NOT "because s/he is disabled" (which is what I regularly hear when I invite people to think it through with me). <br /><br />I probably need to stop ranting and raving now, but I mostly wanted to say that I appreciate your post.Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.com