tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post6701905482503461013..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: who does sadness belong to?Amanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-65761299856656957172010-09-21T10:33:05.838-04:002010-09-21T10:33:05.838-04:00When I was a kid, someone told me, "still wat...When I was a kid, someone told me, "still waters run deep." Like my Dad, I think I am just more <i>intense</i> than most.Usethebrains Godgiveyouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026223483117357541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-60216865102897620532010-08-10T21:17:54.297-04:002010-08-10T21:17:54.297-04:00I'm always floored by how people say they focu...I'm always floored by how people say they focus on the experience of autistic children (which can be iffy in its own right), but then really take the children out of the equation totally and just focus on their NT relatives. Like, Autism Speaks says "We want a world where no family has to live with autism." How much more centered on the family can you get? They're basically saying "We love the families of autistic people so much that we want to take away their pesky autistic relatives."<br /><br />Man, your mom really bothers me. Even if (in part) the point of the post was to point out to people how bothersome your mom is, that doesn't detract from my botheredness. <br /><br />I don't think that being autistic makes people automatically sad somehow. I've had friends who are generally sadder than me, and friends who are less sad. At work, we get kids who I think of as being sad often, and kids who (to me) appear quite happy. Etc etc. I mean all of this is obvious (to me and you) but not so much to other people.<br /><br />My dad also said they would have aborted me if there were a test, because if they heard "autism" they would have assumed that I wouldn't be able to talk or live on my own. And when I was diagnosed with PDD, they were crying because they thought that that still might happen. I really don't know what to make of that. I think it's part of "wanting the best for your child," but it comes with having a really twisted view of what "the best" is.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415989880473044852noreply@blogger.com