tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post7496286657338352050..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: some messy things, invisibility, etc.Amanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-72272707485875565282010-01-28T12:18:20.107-05:002010-01-28T12:18:20.107-05:00no it's not TMI at all, you didn't even sa...no it's not TMI at all, you didn't even say that much. :) Anyway it's not like I'm going to go up to him and be like "YOU ARE BLIND"--except I'm sort of compulsively afraid in the way I'm always afraid of doing the most offensive thing, but that's not the same as actually not having anything else to talk about. I actually don't talk about disability things with other people in real life, very much.<br /><br />Yesterday he asked my roommate if she was me, which solves my conundrum about not knowing if I'm supposed to identify myself. If he asks who I am, I can just answer. Thank God for other people taking initiative so I don't have to.Amanda Forest Vivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284158336100298682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-12746740340213001592010-01-28T11:50:14.745-05:002010-01-28T11:50:14.745-05:00I sometimes have had the same worries. AKA what i...I sometimes have had the same worries. AKA what if I'm staring too much at the nice looking guy in a wheelchair. Because I know that that can get annoying and he might not realize I stare at a lot of people when I look at them.<br /><br />Although, if you want to get to know the blind person you were talking about - I'd say to go talk to him, but be prepared to talk about other things. I've met a couple of good friends because I wanted to get to know them and I talked to them. All the while praying that I wasn't being an asshole.<br /><br />Maybe this is too much information - so feel free to delete.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-13443047265456253332010-01-28T00:19:36.450-05:002010-01-28T00:19:36.450-05:00I don't really feel that my reaction is bad, b...I don't really feel that my reaction is bad, but just that it was read by the other girl as being an example of a clueless straight person who was uncomfortable with homosexuality. When it's really more that I tend to (and especially tended to when I was that age) feel really uncomfortable with any implication of sex/romance, even when it's obviously a joke. for example, backstage during the school musicals, people would lip-synch along with the love songs that were being performed while pointing at their friends, and I couldn't do it.<br /><br />so what I was I trying to say. I guess just that because of my social awkwardness, or whatever, I'm sometimes read as not belonging to, or even being prejudiced against, groups that I belong to.Amanda Forest Vivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284158336100298682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-81597655674095128772010-01-27T23:47:39.176-05:002010-01-27T23:47:39.176-05:00I don't see how your becoming uncomfortable wh...I don't see how your becoming uncomfortable when the girl made a joke about kissing you was an offensive reaction. Or maybe that's because I don't know what you were uncomfortable about? I guess what I'm thinking is, I'm a girl who likes boys and if a boy made a joke about wanting to kiss me I'd be very uncomfortable. I'd be uncomfortable if it was a girl too, if it was anyone. For a variety of reasons - people in general make me uncomfortable, the idea of a relationship worries me (I've never been in one and I feel like I wouldn't know what to do), I don't know how to respond to such a joke, I don't know if there is some truth behind the joke (and what would I do if I knew?), on and on. <br /><br />Or wait, I just reread your description and now I'm not sure what you meant. Do you think your reaction was offensive/homophobic? I don't know, I'm confused now. Why would the girl assume you were straight because of your reaction?<br /><br />I'm having trouble writing out what I really want to say but I guess I'm having trouble understanding why your reaction was bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com