tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post900189019939693791..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: some touch rulesAmanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-78291322866253348112011-11-26T14:48:08.140-05:002011-11-26T14:48:08.140-05:00Yes, wonderful resolution.Yes, wonderful resolution.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-28014419682173058052011-11-26T12:17:02.925-05:002011-11-26T12:17:02.925-05:00I had such a hard time telling my best guy friend ...I had such a hard time telling my best guy friend to stop hugging me so often. He clearly had a crush on me, and I tried telling him that I was not interested. But I didn't want to make him feel depressed.<br /><br />A few months later, I dated another man. He became so jealous that he stopped being my friend!<br /><br />I wonder if this all could have been avoided if only I were more blunt about his hugging habits. Maybe he would have had the message down sooner, and understood that I do not want to date him today or 10 years from now. But I very much loved his friendship, and I am sad to have lost it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14559050484005593112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-3666708546051772312011-11-26T00:37:45.012-05:002011-11-26T00:37:45.012-05:00Yes. Yes. Yes.
Stick to your resolution. It'...Yes. Yes. Yes. <br /><br />Stick to your resolution. It's a good one.Neurodivergent Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815685510033244185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-4284356197032939612011-11-26T00:19:21.430-05:002011-11-26T00:19:21.430-05:00Oh my god, this, yes, thank you.
My sister and I ...Oh my god, this, yes, thank you.<br /><br />My sister and I fight about this all the time.<br /><br />This makes me want to cry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-79649489698084654312011-11-25T19:47:01.463-05:002011-11-25T19:47:01.463-05:00I feel really bad after reading this about how I u...I feel really bad after reading this about how I used to try to hug my nephew. Course, it's kind of moot since he hugs me now (we get along famously).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-26412221025828981842011-11-25T19:34:06.996-05:002011-11-25T19:34:06.996-05:00Certain people can touch me anytime, no problem. T...Certain people can touch me anytime, no problem. The rest of humanity though? No freaking way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-71843566573789119212011-11-25T19:16:50.374-05:002011-11-25T19:16:50.374-05:00I just found your blog through a series of clickin...I just found your blog through a series of clicking starting with ASAN. <br /><br />I never understand why anyone thinks it is okay to just touch people. <br /><br />One time my son started to get upset and someone tried to put their arm around him to calm him down- he reacted pretty harshly. Why should I have to say don't touch him when upset. My son is teenage Aspie. I am his mom, just trying to understand and be a good mom. I think I am NT although another aspie just questioned my NT status. (shrugs) either way hope it is okay for me to be commenting here. I really like your blog. Hope to check back. <br /><br />And by the way I am not sure of anyone who actually really wants to be touched, except maybe those touchy feely freaks. I don't want to be touched. There should be a no touch rule.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-18566377519227004562011-11-25T19:03:50.916-05:002011-11-25T19:03:50.916-05:001) I think people are entirely too touchy feely so...1) I think people are entirely too touchy feely sometimes. 2) I find that I am sometimes too touchy with the folks I work with who don't use speech. I feel badly for doing that when clients I work with pull away, because I know I've accidentally violated their space/comfort. But I would still prefer their letting me know. I can live with feeling badly, but I'd feel much worse if I was never told something I was doing was bothering someone and I kept doing what I was doing and they kept suffering. 3) I think stating your truth makes you a courageous and honest person- not a terrible one. 4) I've noticed the folks I work with prefer having control over the touching. Sometimes *I* have to say, "woah! Back off please." (Of course, that could be their way of saying, "this has been my experience- you and others are/have been in my physical space. See?")Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-1718704122651917142011-11-25T16:30:29.388-05:002011-11-25T16:30:29.388-05:00"So I've just officially decided to be a ..."So I've just officially decided to be a terrible person, when it comes to this one thing. "<br /><br />It's a start, then.<br /><br />I've found the more that a person stands up for her/his boundaries, the easier it gets to do so. But the more you keep quiet (or put yourself or are forced into situations where you HAVE to keep quiet) the harder it gets to do that.<br /><br />I don't agree that you have to say thank you for presents, either. There exists a kind of person who will get you things you don't want or need (or do "favors" like this) and then get mad at you if you don't react the way they want. This ultimately is just being controlling. Meanwhile if I know someone appreciates me doing something I don't really need them to thank me.<br /><br />I guess I just really dislike the idea that a person is obligated to ANY kind of reaction from somebody without that person's agreement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com