tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post5489363080579085998..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: Autism is a world and you're not invitedAmanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-36738792079802712652010-10-31T18:27:52.750-04:002010-10-31T18:27:52.750-04:00I'm REALLY looking forward to your Autistics S...I'm REALLY looking forward to your Autistics Speaking Day post. Your blog is one of my favorite blogs.<br /><br />I haven't figured out a way to react when other people are talking about their disabilities. We've been taught to say, "Oh that's so sad!" our whole lives. I can feel the pull to say something, but I feel like I can't say that, and I don't have an alternative phrase that doesn't sound ableist.Kathryn Bjornstad-Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09757451092927118197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-16250874931921441382010-10-31T17:24:25.030-04:002010-10-31T17:24:25.030-04:00Part of the reason I'm glad I didn't use t...Part of the reason I'm glad I didn't use this post is that it isn't exactly true. I mean, it's certainly not how everyone feels, but it's not even exactly how I feel either.<br /><br />The truth is that it isn't exactly that I don't want help, but just that sometimes I feel people just see the ways I am different, and don't see me. I would rather they see the whole thing, but maybe I don't trust people to do that.<br /><br />There have also been some people who have given me help and I ended up resenting them for it because I felt in their debt.Amanda Forest Vivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284158336100298682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-80803638447417503272010-10-31T13:54:00.234-04:002010-10-31T13:54:00.234-04:00This is really interesting.
I guess my reaction ...This is really interesting. <br /><br />I guess my reaction to learning that someone had a disability would be to ask them if there's anything I could do to help. Of I were their boss, I'd tell that if they needed an accommodation, they could ask. <br /><br />I get the whole not wanting people to be all sad about your life as a default though. I feel that way when talking about my social problems. I talk about my social problems on LJ in what can seem like a very negative/self-pity way, but it's really just me dealing with the those feelings and not an invitation for other people to somehow give me advice or feel sorry for me. Sometimes the best way for me to work things out is to verbalize them. <br /><br />I am going to do an Autistics Speaking Day post tomorrow. I've actually thought of something to say, which I'm happy about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com