tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post642020064464182959..comments2024-03-01T03:37:20.420-05:00Comments on I'M SOMEWHERE ELSE: ServicesAmanda Foresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-602794237092356332013-09-15T00:29:54.413-04:002013-09-15T00:29:54.413-04:00No problem at all - I was being a busybody - as I ...No problem at all - I was being a busybody - as I said, you did a thorough job of analyzing two of your basic needs - and that will help you figure out what to do about them.<br /><br />And there is no way I or anyone else who only knows you from your writing on the web can have ANY idea what your problems and solutions are.<br /><br />I meant everyone has to deal with food, and everyone has to learn to set their own boundaries (as you just did with your response to me). Sorry if I didn't make that clear - my bad.<br /><br />I don't even know if it helps YOU to write down your options - but my brain does many things that way because it can't hold everything in mind at once.<br /><br />I am wishing you solutions that fit you and your life - because you found them and worked out the best for yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-14422471770408648132013-09-13T19:57:31.291-04:002013-09-13T19:57:31.291-04:00Our interactions on my blog are so strange because...Our interactions on my blog are so strange because I can see what a kind person you are and it is so nice that you want to help me when you don't even know me. But I don't write my blog to get advice or offers of help and they kind of make me feel bad. It also makes me feel really bad when people tell me that most people have the same problems as me. Last time someone told me this I was crying by the time I got home and proceeded to drink so much that I was throwing up for the next 12 hours. Saying most people have the same problems as me just means I am lazy and don't want to work.Amanda Foresthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04200794053287551087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466691337834051176.post-4814041973011821962013-09-12T23:57:00.133-04:002013-09-12T23:57:00.133-04:00Excellent analysis of a place to start.
You need ...Excellent analysis of a place to start.<br /><br />You need a better food system, whether you learn to do it yourself or have someone help/do it for you.<br /><br />And you need work to stay stable at the hours you are comfortable with, because you're able to cope with that much, and you do like your work, but extra is hard for you to do. And you want to do that without getting people all upset with you and feeling you're not doing your fair share. You feel bad saying no, but you need to.<br /><br />These are not easy things to fix - or you would have fixed them already - but they do have solutions.<br /><br />Do you think you would be happier learning how to deal better with food with some coaching? That would be about developing some life-long strategies and skills. <br /><br />An effective plan has to start from where you are, what your skills and needs are now, and how you're handling them. And then exploring your options for making some of the pieces work better for you. Someone near you is best, but it's the kind of thing someone on the net CAN help you with (email or phone is better than on your blog - for personal help).<br /><br />For the work, you are doing what you need to do: not accepting extra work which disturbs your routine. Your best bet there maybe to learn to simply say, "I'm sorry - I have other plans in that time slot." It does get easier - it could be a class, or going to the gym, or meeting friends that makes you unavailable - none of their business - and you don't have to tell them why, just to tell them you are not available. <br /><br />Is it possible they think you might want more work because you might need more money? It still doesn't matter, but if you've already signed up for the amount of work you can handle, say no to more. <br /><br />Someone local to support you is better - but again, it is something someone who can make a phone call for you can do from any where.<br /><br />If you want to see if you could work with me on either of these things, my email address is on my blog.<br /><br />Most people your age need to learn a lot of these skills. But you've done a great start in identifying what might help.<br />AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com