Also, one of the reasons that I find it so upsetting to be told that social skills do exist is that I think social skills are about as legit and dangerous as sexual skills--and by sexual skills, I mean the idea that being good/successful/able at sex is a flat line going from No to Yes.
Like lots of kids with autism I was put on antipsychotics and it screwed up my life. One of the things the psychiatrist used to explain why I should be on antipsychotics was the fact that when he asked me how high my sex drive was, I said it was "low," which indicated that I was depressed. I was 15 years old and felt terrible about myself and my body. I'm also queer and an s/m person among other things, so I haven't always felt like engaging with my sexuality because it's kind of alienating. Also, those things aside, some people just have low sex drives.
So we know that--just like not looking people in the eye is a way to have bad social skills--not wanting to have sex as much as other people do is a way to have bad sexual skills, to be bad (worthy of medicalization) in the area of sex.
I wonder what the other bad sexual skills would be. I imagine they'd be a lot like bad social skills.
Not liking the same things other people like.
Not reacting the way you should.
Crying when someone does something you're supposed to like.
Saying no to something that everyone's supposed to do.
Bringing up something weird just because it makes you happy.
Throwing a fit just because someone tried to make you do something you don't like.
Just not being interested at all.