It makes me feel really hopeless when things are always set up so you're only allowed to communicate about things in real time spoken conversations, and if you try to communicate in a different format, people get mad or just won't listen at all. I can't really do real time conversations about anything important because I can't process stuff or put together words fast enough, and it is really frustrating because if you write things, people automatically see it as much more formal and intense. So sometimes, writing is just not really allowed as a format for certain conversations.
It's not a big deal and I can figure something out in most important situations, but sometimes you just need to talk to someone you don't know that well about something important--but I have to choose between either not having the conversation, having it in a format where I'll be forced to agree with everything they say because I can't follow it, or offending the person by using what they think is the wrong format.
It's a downer.
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I totally agree. I find this is especially bad during phone calls, and sometimes I find myself just pretending I've understood as there are only so many times you can comfortably ask someone to repeat themselves. Also since writing things down more in my relationships with others it's made communication easier - I actually do this more in relation to necessary but trivial things (which are easier to forget) rather than deeper things. But i'm sure it would work well for the latter too.
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